Parallel parenting offers a structured approach for high-conflict separated parents who struggle with traditional co-parenting methods.
This alternative parenting arrangement allows both parents to disengage from each other while maintaining meaningful relationships with their children.
Understanding how to implement parallel parenting effectively can help reduce stress and create a more stable environment for children caught in the middle of parental conflict.
What is Parallel Parenting?
Parallel parenting is a custody arrangement where parents disengage from each other and have minimal direct contact while both remaining active in their children’s lives.
- Limited communication between parents
- Separate and independent parenting styles
- Structured schedules and boundaries
- Business-like interactions when necessary
When to Consider Parallel Parenting
This approach works best in situations involving:
- High levels of conflict between parents
- History of domestic violence
- Inability to communicate effectively
- Ongoing legal disputes
- Different parenting philosophies
Setting Up a Parallel Parenting Plan
A detailed parenting plan should include:
- Specific pickup and drop-off arrangements
- Clear holiday and vacation schedules
- Communication methods (email, parenting apps)
- Decision-making responsibilities
- Emergency protocols
Communication Guidelines
Effective parallel parenting requires strict communication boundaries:
- Use written communication only
- Stick to facts and necessary information
- Avoid emotional language
- Document all interactions
- Use professional tone
Legal Considerations in Edmonton
Contact these resources for legal support:
- Law Society of Alberta Referral Service: 1-800-661-1095
- Edmonton Family Court: 780-422-2200
- Legal Aid Alberta: 1-866-845-3425
Moving Forward Successfully
Focus on these key aspects for successful parallel parenting:
- Maintain detailed records of all agreements and communications
- Respect boundaries and established schedules
- Put children’s needs first
- Seek professional support when needed
- Stay committed to disengagement from conflict
For additional support, contact Resolution Services at 1-855-738-4747 or visit the Alberta Courts website at www.albertacourts.ca.
Benefits for Children
When implemented correctly, parallel parenting provides several advantages for children:
- Reduced exposure to parental conflict
- Consistent routines and expectations
- Maintained relationships with both parents
- Improved emotional stability
- Lower stress levels
Common Challenges to Address
Be prepared to navigate these potential obstacles:
- Resistance from the other parent
- Maintaining consistent boundaries
- Managing schedule changes
- Handling special events or celebrations
- Dealing with new partners or family members
Support Resources Available
Professional Services
- Family counselors
- Parenting coordinators
- Child psychologists
- Mediators
Community Support
- Parent support groups
- Online forums
- Educational workshops
- Family resource centers
Creating a Positive Path Forward
Remember these essential points for long-term success:
- Focus on your relationship with your children
- Maintain consistent documentation
- Regularly review and adjust plans as needed
- Seek professional help when challenges arise
- Keep children’s best interests at the forefront
Contact the Edmonton Family Resolution Center at 780-427-8343 to access additional resources and support services for parallel parenting arrangements.
FAQs
- What is parallel parenting and how does it differ from co-parenting?
Parallel parenting is a parenting arrangement where high-conflict divorced or separated parents disengage from each other while maintaining their parental responsibilities. Unlike co-parenting, it minimizes direct contact between parents and involves separate, independent parenting. - When should parallel parenting be considered as an option?
Parallel parenting should be considered when there is ongoing conflict, hostility, poor communication, or a history of domestic violence between parents, making traditional co-parenting impossible or detrimental to the children’s well-being. - What are the key components of a parallel parenting plan?
A parallel parenting plan includes detailed schedules, specific communication protocols (usually written), clear boundaries, separate attendance at children’s events, and independent decision-making within each parent’s designated time. - How is communication handled in parallel parenting?
Communication is typically limited to written forms (email, text, or parenting apps), focused solely on essential information about the children, and avoids face-to-face interaction except in emergencies. - Can parallel parenting be court-ordered in Alberta?
Yes, Alberta courts can order parallel parenting arrangements when evidence shows high conflict between parents and traditional co-parenting is not in the child’s best interest. - What role do lawyers play in establishing parallel parenting arrangements?
Lawyers help create detailed parallel parenting plans, ensure legal compliance, negotiate terms, and can represent parents in court if judicial intervention is needed to establish or modify the arrangement. - How are major decisions about the child handled in parallel parenting?
Major decisions are typically divided between parents based on their areas of responsibility, or require written communication and documented agreement, often with specific protocols for resolving disagreements. - What documentation is needed to establish a parallel parenting arrangement in Alberta?
Required documentation includes a detailed parenting plan, court orders if applicable, written communication protocols, and specific provisions for decision-making authority and dispute resolution procedures. - How can parallel parenting transitions be managed effectively?
Transitions can be managed through neutral locations, supervised exchanges, or having children transition at school or daycare to minimize parent contact while maintaining structure for the children. - What are the legal implications of violating a parallel parenting agreement in Alberta?
Violations can result in court enforcement, contempt charges, modifications to the parenting arrangement, or other legal consequences as determined by the court.
